Welcome to My Dream World

April 27, 2007

“When you look at love, you're looking into the face of appreciation.”

What Is Love?

Throughout the history of mankind, we as a world culture have made love out to be mysterious, complex, difficult, and undefinable. It’s the subject of endless poems and literary works. There is an enormous amount of material available out there about love, a lot of it contradictory.
We’ve been given the impression that to define love is near to impossible. Maybe there’s a fear that if we define it, it would somehow be less powerful...less impactful...less exhilarating. Maybe we like the mystery of it. But is it really that complicated? Perhaps the complications surrounding love come from all “stuff” we add on to this powerful emotion. Lets drop all the baggage surrounding relationships and define what it is we are experiencing in the moment of love.

Basic Components of Love

What do you feel when you love someone? If distilled down to it’s core components, what would those be? Yes, love is an emotion, a feeling, a wanting, and a “being”. We know it feels good, but what specific feelings, wantings, and beings are present when we feel love? Here are the common denominators of love...

Love is Accepting.

Acceptance is labeling someone as "okay" and having no particular desire to change them. Who they are is perfectly fine with you. You pose no condition on whether you will love them or not. This is call unconditional love. When your love IS conditional, the moment they step outside your set of conditions, love evaporates.

Love is Appreciating.

Appreciation is one step beyond acceptance. Its when your focus is on what you like about another. We look at them and feel this sweeping appreciation for who they are, their joy, their insights, their humor, their companionship, etc. When someone says they are "in love" with another, they mean their appreciation is so enormous for this person that it consumes their every thought.

Love is Wanting Another to Feel Good.

We want those we love to be happy, safe, healthy, and fulfilled. We want them to feel good in all ways, physically, mentally and emotionally.

How Do We Express Love?

We don’t always express our love. Love is a feeling and the expression of that feeling is separate. It’s an action. There’s a practical reason we don’t always express our love for another. It’s an issue of TIME. We only have 24 hours in a day (if you make it up that way). If the expression of love was a core ingredient to love, we would have to be stingy with who we loved, because there simply wouldn’t be enough time to demonstrate our love for everyone! If you see the distinction between the feeling and the expression, you can then love endless numbers of people.

Childhood is....

Childhood is hanging your pictures on the refrigerator, and tea parties you always have to cater.

Childhood is chasing butterflies and picking flowers, playing with blocks and making towers. Childhood is hating nap time, and thinking everything is always MINE Childhood is crayons and coloring books, Playing hide and go seek in all the right nooks.

Childhood is falling asleep to your favorite lullaby, wishing you had wings so you could soar into the sky.

Childhood is only crying over a scrapped knee, or being stung by a bumble bee

Childhood is ruining mommy's new leather, and making friends and keeping them forever.

Childhood finally ends, When you start to grow up, And not having to drink out of a sippy cup

My Mom

A mother is special.She's as soft and graceful as a butterfly,yet as strong and courageous as a grizzly bear.Her heart is large enough to hold everyone's pain and joy.Her hands are always gentle and soothing.Her arms are always warm and tender.She works hard to make ahome feel like home,and she strives to make life pleasant and comfortable for those she loves.She never fails to go that extra mile to make the holidays happy and memorable.

Her job is the most difficult and demanding ever known to any human being,yet she's fully dedicated to the task.She's always there for her family,guiding them and keeping them safe from harm.She owns a magical way to raise spirits and make everything feel better.And her sympathy, unselfishness and forgiveness are unending.All that anyone is or could ever hope to becan be attributed to a mother.

She instills the teachings that will last a lifetime.She sows the seeds of virtue and morality,and in the process, she opens up love and vast horizons.She's always watching and hoping thather children's goals will have meaning.She always listens and tries to understand even when it's difficult to do so.She's a true friend in every sense of the word.She's noble and sublime,and holds all the beauty of a golden day,yet even during the storms,she always shines bright like an evening star.Her name should be honored well,for she's the closest thing to God on earth.

I Love U Mumma......